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Monday 17 April 2023

Always be kind to somebody

  I was the poor kid growing up. My mom used to send me to birthday parties with no present, just so I could eat. I definitely got to a point where I understood and was embarrassed as hell.

In fifth grade, my friend’s mom invited me to sleep over the night before the actual birthday party. When her daughter was in the shower, the mom laid out the toys that she had bought her daughter


for her birthday. She let me pick one to wrap and put my name on.

I’m 37 now. I am still grateful to that mom. That one act made such an impact on me.

Always be kind. 

If you see someone falling behind, walk beside them. If someone is being ignored, find a way to include them. If someone has been knocked down, lift them up. Always remind people of their worth. Be who you needed when you were going through hard times.


Just one small act of kindness could mean the world to somebody today.

Saturday 15 April 2023

STOP RAISING AN OVERDEPENDENT GENERATION!

  MOST PARENTS OF TODAY ARE RAISING AN "OVERDEPENDENT GENERATION" 

1. You cook their food for them so that they can read and enjoy.

2. You help them to wash their clothes and tidy their rooms.

3. You drop them off in school every day by yourself!

4. You lie on their behalf to get them out of trouble.

5. You arrange "expo" to help them pass their exams.

6. You protect them from every danger and difficulties.

7. You prevent them from any form of pain and suffering.

8. You don't want them to suffer like you did as a child.

9. You hustle around while they watch films and play games.

10. They can't go out alone because you're always scared.

11. You take every decision for them, because you're wiser.

12. You go to their schools to fight for them and prove rights.

13. You defend them even when they're wrong and at fault.

14. You can not stand seeing them starve or go hungry for once.

15. You fight against those who try to correct them.

*I PITY YOU*

.....YOU ARE BUSY RAISING AN OVER- DEPENDENT GENERATION !!!

You think you are showing them LOVE ?

*SORRY, YOU'RE WRONG* !!!!

By the time you're no longer there and they face real life challenges, they will become helpless !!!

At that stage, they will realise the havoc you have done to them and CURSE YOU !!!

*STOP RAISING AN OVER-DEPENDENT GENERATION !!!*

Allow these children to face realities of life !!!

Be careful !!!

*Raising Responsible Children*

1. Give your children age-appropriate domestic tasks, even if you have a thousand and one domestic servants at home. It is sheer ignorance to think that doing everything for your children is a mark of honour or a way of bequeathing royalty on them.

2. Teach them to be useful and make their impact felt positively wherever they are found – in the school, place of worship, in another person’s home, etc.


3. Encourage your children to always leave a good impression wherever they go to; teach them to be courteous, respectful, friendly, cheerful and helpful.

4. Teach them good toilet manners – they must know how to keep the toilet neat for the next user, let them know that it is unacceptable to leave the bathroom floor and/or walls messed with soap, foam or any form dirt after bathing.

5. Teach your children the importance of taking good care of their body and their environment; whether they are at home or elsewhere. Remind them that responsible people don’t leave their rooms unkempt or their bed unmade when they get up in the morning; teach them to bath very well and smell fine always. It is unbearable to have a smelly young person around you; let them take care of their armpits, teeth, hair, nail, etc.

6. Teach your children to manage their used clothes and other personal belongings very well, whether in their home or elsewhere. It can be irritating to have dirty clothes or shoes, especially those of a visitor litter every corner of the house.

7. Let them pack their toiletries before leaving home. Your children should not depend on their hosts for their basic toiletries like soap, cream, tooth paste and other essentials.

8. Teach your children to dress well all the time, especially when they are spending time with another family. You probably allow your daughters to dress in bum shots and your sons to walk about with their chest bare in your home, but they may not be safe if they do so in another place. You may not know where a predator would lie in wait for a child.

9. Teach them good table manners; not the one recited in nursery schools rhymes. Teach them to chew with their mouth covered, not to make noise with the cutlery on their teeth, not to talk with their mouth full, etc.

10. Let your children know that washing only their own plates after eating is not a noble idea.

11. Remind your children that jumping into a conversation when adults are talking is a sign of being ill-mannered. Discourage this both in your home and elsewhere.

12. Help your children not to be social birds online and anti-social bugs offline. They should relate well with people around them, much more than they do with virtual folks they meet online. Please, discourage this idea of young people locking themselves in the room hours on end without communicating with anyone in the house – all because they are on phone.

13. Empower your children to uphold your family values wherever they are. But before then, make sure that your family values are credible, empowering, socially and morally beneficial.

14. Teach your children to control their appetite and learn to turn down certain offers, even when such offers come from people they know. And at home, it is not compulsory that they must taste everything they see someone eating. This will help them to take their eyes away from certain things when they are in other people’s home.

15. Always remind your children that they are the window through which the world sees you. If your children’s behavior outside is bad, the general consensus is that they lack home training. And since children are not meant to give themselves home training, it means that you failed as a parent.

16. Finally, make sure your children know God. Salvation is not hereditary; that you are godly or highly spiritual is not a guarantee that your children are saved. You must consciously and deliberately lead them to God

My fellow parents, let us try our best to make sure these children represent us well. I am sure you will feel good if you come to your children’s school and people are pointing at you as the parent of the best behaved child in the school. Won’t you?

THE SCHOOL OR TEACHERS CAN'T GIVE THEM ALL!

MAY GOD ALMIGHTY MAKE OUR CHILDREN RESPONSIBLE AND SUCCESSFUL!!.

Wednesday 12 April 2023

15 Rules for Men

 1. Never go back to the woman who cheated.

2. Never let a woman disrespect you.

3. Never shake a hand sitting down.

4. Never go broke to impress others.

5. Never eat the last piece of something you didn't buy.

6. Always have the ambition to be better.


7. Protect who is behind you, and respect who is beside you.

8. Take 1-3 seconds pause after getting asked a question.

9. Don't beg for a relationship.

10. Work out at least 4x a week.

11. If you are not invited, don't ask to go.

12. Always carry cash.

13. Dress well no matter what the occasion.

14. Listen, nod, and most of all make eye contact.

15. Find multiple ways to make money.

MANAGING MENTAL HEALTH

 

The World Health Organization (WHO) defines Mental Health as a state of well-being in which every individual can carry out four roles: -

a.     Realize his/her potentials

b.     Cope with normal stress of life

c.      Work productivity

d.     Participate meaningfully in the community. It also includes our emotional, psychological and social well-being.

It is important to note that the bible does not explicitly speak on the topic of mental health. However, it does have a lot to say about the heart, mind and the condition of the soul. Health is defined by the World Health Organization (WHO) as a complete state of physical. mental and social well-being. It is not just the absence of disease or infirmity. Mental health is important as it affects the whole being. (Proverbs 4:23).

In contrast, it is a psychological disorder affecting one’s mood, thinking and behaviour. The term mental illness covers a broad range of disorders from mild depression to schizophrenia – a condition that impairs a person’s ability to think, feel, process and respond to life situations in an appropriate way. Mental illness can distort our view of God and others and as well contribute to sinful behaviour.

There are some cases of emotional issues in the bible such as

a.     Depression. 1 kings 19:1-4

b.     Loneliness. 1 kings 19;10

c.      Hopelessness. 1 kings 17: 9-12

d.     Suicide Matthew 27:5











e.     Rejection. 1 Samuel 18:7-8

f.       Insanity Mark 5:1-5

CAUSES AND SOLUTIONS

It is the desire of God for believers to live a peaceful and fulfilled life (Genesis 25:8; Jeremiah 29:11). However, there are some believers who are not operating in this realm of God’s intention for them. This may be as a result of some of these factors; -

a.     Childhood abuse          Proverbs 17;22b

b.     Trauma/neglect             2 Samuel13:19

c.      Loneliness                       1 Kings 19:10

d.     Discrimination/oppression    James 2:6

e.     Poverty                              Proverbs 10:15

f.       Loss of loved ones         2 Samuel 18:33  

g.     Debts                                   Proverbs 22:7

h.     Low self-esteem               Numbers 13:33

i.        Severe stress                     1 Samuel 30:4,6

j.        Family difficulties/challenges Genesis 34:30 etc. Also in some cases, spiritual forces have a direct effect on mental health 1Samuel 16:14; Mark 5:1-5.

To overcome mental ill-health and enjoy emotional well-being, you must understand that

1.       Failure and challenges are part of human life Proverbs 24:16

2.      Investing in good social network and godly relationship are important 2 Samuel 9:1

3.     Loneliness and isolation which are risk factors for depression and suicidal behaviour should be avoided. Proverbs 17:22

4.     Good sleep helps the brain restore itself. Proverbs 3;24

5.     Regular exercise expunges toxic chemicals from the body. 1 timothy 4:8

6.     Drug abuse is not an option for good health

7.     Healthy thoughts are necessary always. Philippians 4:8.

Conclusively, good mental health is necessary for good daily living. Therefore, take care of your health.

God bless you.

Source: The Redeemed Christian Church of God Sunday School Manual.